Non-Judgmental Personal Mentorship

Men today Are Like Lions in a Cage

Men today are like lions in a cage—meant for strength and nobility, but deemed “toxic” by society just for being themselves. You get such contradictory and confusing messages about your role in the family and community. And without positive role models, it’s hard to navigate an increasingly complicated and disconnected world. You’re expected to either have no problems at all, or to figure it all out on your own. Meanwhile, corporations make billions of dollars keeping you addicted to screens, junk food, and other quick fixes. All this put together, it’s too easy to find yourself feeling discouraged, and wishing you had a clear purpose that was appreciated by others.

These are hard times for men. But what if the power you need is already within you, like a lion who has forgotten his strength, and you just need to break out of that cage to realize it?

Here’s what my client Andy said:

“When I first started coaching, I was imposing a value system on myself that didn’t actually reflect my innermost self and desires. I was really just absorbing the value systems of other people out of fear of rejection or conflict, while half-heartedly passing them off as my own. But Damodar helped me see parts of myself that I wasn’t allowing myself access to. With his kind and steady help, I began to discover my own voice - and a deep, genuine self-confidence.”

The foundation for being a man is knowing and living according to your own values. When temptations arise that would compromise your integrity, you have the power to stay strong. When your values are unpopular, you have the power to stay true to yourself despite fear of judgment. In all areas of your life, you have the power to make decisions based on knowing who you are and keep your word even when it’s hard. Of course, the corporations who profit from keeping you inside a cage don’t want you to know this. But this power is something only you can awaken. And once you do, no one can take it away. Are you ready to break free from the cage?

Results You Can Expect

About

After school was over, finally, I wasn’t just searching for a career — I wanted something better… something that would give my life purpose. That search led me to become a monk in the Hare Krishna movement. Over the course of 7 years, I performed over 5,000 hours of mantra meditation, read the Bhagavad-Gita hundreds of times, and engaged in community service all around the USA. But to be honest, at a certain point I hit a wall in my spiritual growth.

I had so many toxic habits from the materialistic society I grew up in. I was worried what people thought about me, struggling not to break the rules in private, and scared how to find my place in the world. I thought I should be more disciplined, so I condemned myself so badly that I became seriously depressed. Although I had many resources to draw from, I wasn’t sure how to take these ancient ideas and apply them to my modern struggles.

In 2015, I volunteered at a Suicide Hotline and discovered that I loved listening to people and empathizing with their feelings. I decided that even if I wasn’t ready yet to make a living counseling people, I wanted a job helping people in some other way. The following years I worked in Alzheimer’s care and supervised teenagers at a shelter. This helped me to develop a lot of patience, and a client-centered approach to care. At the same time, I was working on overcoming my character flaws. I was developing my skills as a counselor. I became more self-reliant and responsible, I developed healthy relationship and communication skills, and I finally overcame all sorts of addictive habits.

In the years that followed, I studied Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Stoicism, and many psychology and self-help books. I began to realize that most of the wisdom I needed was already in the spiritual books I had read “hundreds of times.” The men I counseled were struggling with the same problems I had overcome myself, and my mission became crystal clear. I’m here to take this ancient wisdom and make it available for the benefit of the modern man. Without having to become a monk yourself, you can gain the same benefit of through my unique contributions. You can transform your sense of self-worth, your relationships, and your habits.

Think of me as your local friend and older brother, combining spiritual wisdom and practical guidance to help you navigate the challenges of life. Count on me for strict confidentiality and a judgment-free space to talk about anything. So if you have something on your mind and you’ve been thinking about talking with someone about it, contact me.

Sincerely,

Damodar

Frequently Asked Questions

A confidential place to open up about anything.

What I realized in my years as a monk is that self-control isn’t a matter of willpower alone. When you’re overwhelmed by painful emotions and self-judgement, it makes it harder to be disciplined. As I read in one book:

शोकामर्षादिभिर् भावैर् आक्रान्तं यस्य मानसं

कथं तत्र मुकुन्दस्य स्फूर्ति-सम्भावना भवेत्

“People who are overwhelmed by lamentation, anger, and other emotions, are prevented from realizing the presence of God within their own hearts.” — Padma Purana

You could write an entire book about all of your memories, hopes, fears, desires, doubts, beliefs, and so on. But when all of this stuff is crammed inside your skull, with just six inches of space from ear to ear, you can’t sort out your thoughts or make sense of your life. It’s like trying to organize a storage unit that’s absolutely stuffed to the brim, but without being allowed to take anything out. That’s why you need the space to talk openly and honestly before you can get a handle on your difficult emotions, process your self-judgements, and regain control over your life!

The modern society might have decided that the needs of men aren’t important. But that can’t stop you from standing up for yourself and investing in a sacred space where you can work out your feelings and get your life back on track.

Here’s what the experience was like for Marco:

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Fight like a Monk

After decades of education, you might look back and realize that you got good grades and degrees, but you’re not sure what to do with the actual information you were taught. As a young man, I could feel there was something off about this. But it’s only now that I realize what the actual problem was. Education is meant to help you find your purpose in life and show you how to use knowledge and information to serve that purpose. But most institutions don’t care about your unique nature, gifts, or ambitions because they see you as nothing more than a future employee—a number in the system that’s meant for profits rather than self-realization.

I became a monk because I knew that I needed to find my purpose first. I sought out challenging jobs helping people, like volunteering at a Suicide Hotline, or taking care of seniors with Alzheimer’s disease, because I knew I needed to develop my character to do the kind of work I was meant for. For years I’ve had a passion for learning—whether it was Sanskrit texts from ancient India, conscious communication skills, or the journal of Marcus Aurelius. But all this training and information has only come together for me with an awareness of my purpose of developing myself and counseling others. Now I’ve realized that my rebellion against materialistic society is something that can be practiced even while you work inside it. You don’t have to become a monk to fight for your sense of purpose and integrity.

My coaching program is designed to help you deeply understand your own unique story, values, and purpose, so you can make meaningful choices and be happy. Whether you’re navigating the system or you’re a trailblazer, you will learn how to fight like a monk by defining your own values and disciplining yourself to live with integrity. Together, we will explore questions like:

• Who do I admire? What makes me admire them?

• What does success mean to me personally?

• What do I truly want?

I will help you to clarify your answers and put them into writing—writing that’s worth keeping for the rest of your life. The clarity you gain will be a guiding light as you make decisions in complex situations, and face the uncertainties of life. Here’s how my client Santosh benefited from this practice:

Are you ready to find a greater sense of purpose and direction in life? Fill out the form below to join my online community, where you can access resources and connect with others who are facing similar challenges. Let’s break free from the grips of toxic perfectionism and find the personal authenticity you’ve been craving in your work.

Client Wins

Gary found the way forward by accepting his emotions:

“I used to feel completely stuck in my own head. Every time I had a negative emotion—whether it was doubt, resentment, or jealousy—I’d feel guilty for even feeling that way. I was trapped in this loop of overanalyzing everything but never really knowing how to deal with it. On top of that, my perfectionism made it even worse, because I expected myself to be in total control of my emotions all the time. If I wasn’t calm or 'spiritual' enough, I’d beat myself up for it. It was exhausting. I was resorting to some pretty unhealthy habits to cope, but I didn’t even realize that overwhelm was the driving force.

That’s when I started working with Damodar. One of the first things he told me was to stop running from my emotions and just accept them. It sounds simple, but for me, it was a game-changer. For so long, I had been trying to ‘fix’ everything about myself, and Damodar helped me see that the first step was to actually stop trying so hard to be perfect. Instead, I needed to accept my challenges and focus on my response. With his help, I was able to start untangling the emotions that had been weighing me down for so long. It wasn’t about getting rid of them but about understanding and letting them be. I realized I didn’t have to feel like a saint to move forward.

Once I stopped expecting perfection from myself, everything started to shift. I wasn’t so overwhelmed by guilt or pressure anymore. I could focus on my daily tasks and spiritual practices without constantly comparing myself to some ideal version of who I should be. That sense of calm that came with accepting where I am—right here, right now—was huge. And honestly, it’s made everything easier. I’m still working on things, but with Damodar’s guidance, I finally feel like I’m making real progress.” — Gary

Jose set heathy boundaries:

“I was stuck in an awkward work relationship with a friend of mine. His demands came almost everyday, at all hours, and were never-ending. I never even got a ‘thank you’ for all the volunteer work I did. Only criticisms and more requests. This left me suspended in a constant state of anxiety. Since I was afraid to make mistakes, I kept trying harder and harder to prove that I was good enough. But even when I finished big projects, I still felt depressed.

Somehow, I wasn’t able to see just how unhealthy and manipulative this dynamic was. But with Damodar’s help, I gained clarity about what I needed to protect my mental health, I set proper boundaries, and was able to correct the imbalances in our relationship.

I’m so glad I finally opened up to someone. Damodar has been instrumental in my personal growth, and I consider him a trusted friend and guide.”

— Jose

Chris transformed his life from depression to joy:

“When I started coaching with Damodar, I was holding on to a lot of blame and anger, both towards and myself and other people. I often felt overwhelmed with anxiety while interacting with people. And I was struggling with addiction on almost a daily basis.

But what’s amazing is that now it’s hard to even relate to that condition I was so absorbed in before. I’ve become more self-controlled, accepting of my situation, and confident in myself. I think the core of what helped me was the safe space Damodar provided to talk about sensitive matters, and the gentle grounding of the journaling exercises we did. This coaching process really helped me to understand my own feelings, and find the path forward to heal and grow from my experiences.

I've rekindled friendships, relationships, and experienced a new sense of grounding, focus, and creativity. I was able to build a strong morning practice of yoga, mantra meditation, and exercise, which has boosted my overall well-being in a big way. Journaling became a strong habit for me, even though I had tried before without much success. Overall, Damodar inspired me to be more honest and to pursue greater integrity in my life.

I feel like Damodar’s genuine care for others was the driving force behind my transformation. And I would recommend him to anyone who’s struggling with difficult emotions, addictions, or even anyone who wants to explore and more deeply understand their own life and feelings.” — Chris

Darren reached one year p*rn free:

“For many years I had an addiction. I felt so ashamed of it that I would drive 50 miles each week to see a counselor, just so no one would recognize me.

Since then, I started coaching with Damodar, and we’ve actually written down my whole life story together. I began to realize that my addiction makes perfect sense given my rough circumstances and sensitive nature. I also began to see my way out of it.

I’ve become more assertive and self-satisfied in my dealings with others. I’ve learned how to accept my feelings and take greater responsibility. The experience of having Damodar get to know me so personally, and still be warm and accepting, has been the opposite of shame. Now I’ve reached an entire year of sobriety. And I’m so grateful to him.”

— Darren

Luke learned how to push himself in a sustainable way:

“What I appreciated most about Damodar was his friendliness and genuine care. I was looking for more balanced ways to approach work, and quickly found that I had a lot of unconscious motives driving me. Damodar asked great questions that deepened my thinking about seemingly mundane things. I learned to be less critical of myself, stop pushing to extremes, and instead be productive - while also taking needed rest.”

— Luke Vanderlinden

Tony escaped the grip of anger:

“I have been in a long fight with uncontrolled anger, as well as self-destructive thoughts about what I’m worth as a person. But with Damodar, I got a better sense of what I can positively appreciate about myself. I saw how my past traumas can be triggered even in the present with people I love, and how to stop that avalanche of toxic patterns before I hurt myself or anyone else.

I learned how to handle conflict in a way where I can be empathetic both to myself and the other person. I learned how to be kind to myself by celebrating my wins, and not looking at every “loss” as evidence that I’m a failure. I gained insights about my heroes and role models in life, and how they had paved the way of my morals and ethics that have been buried in my heart since my young adulthood.

I appreciated Damodar’s kindness, his attention to detail in our conversations, and the sincerity in his responses. He’s a very good listener, very thoughtful, and he asks honest and thought-provoking questions. I felt like he could really empathize with me in a way that I had been needing, and it really made me feel comfortable to open up about sensitive matters.”

— Tony Doggett

Marco felt like the could talk about anything:

“Damodar made me feel like I could talk about anything without worrying about being judged or criticized. He helped me learn how to take a step back from my indecorous behaviors, so I can avoid them by understanding the reasons behind them. What I’m really grateful for is not only did this help me, but it also helped the people I’m close with. There are so many paths and goals in life, but I was able to find that the morals that can guide me are already deep inside myself. It takes strength to put your hands down and admit you don’t have your act altogether. But I learned more about myself that way.”

— Marco “Manohar” P.

Andy found his voice:

“When I first started coaching, I was imposing a value system on myself that didn’t actually reflect my innermost self and desires. I was really just absorbing the value systems of other people out of fear of rejection or conflict, while half-heartedly passing them off as my own. But Damodar helped me see parts of myself that I wasn’t allowing myself access to. With his kind and steady help, I began to discover my own voice - and a deep, genuine self-confidence.”

— Andy

J.W. learned how to navigate marriage conflicts in a constructive way:

“I appreciated Damodar’s non-judgmental demeanor, but at the same time, his ability to help me recognize harmful patterns in my thinking and behavior. The conversations, structured journaling, and role-playing all helped me to better understand my wife’s feelings, and communicate my own. We learned to navigate conflict in a way where our relationship actually becomes deeper.”

— J.W. North Carolina

Dan discovered new things about himself:

“For years I had journaled on and off, always with the intention to make it a daily habit, but was never able to maintain the practice. Damodar’s habit tracker and stimulating journal prompts helped me rediscover my love for journaling and it’s been a consistent daily habit for me ever since.

I appreciated the insights Damodar offered, and especially the way in which he offered them. Rather than just telling me how to improve, he helped guide my introspections in a way that I was able to see the deeper causes of negative habits and understand why I developed them as coping strategies, as well as the valid need I was trying to meet, and how I could meet that need in healthier ways. In this way, he showed me how transforming habits is not as much a process of self-neglect and restraint, but rather self-care.

In working with Damodar, I was also able to see subtle connections between different tendencies in my life that were previously unnoticed. This was highly empowering and motivating to know that addressing and working on the root of one problem would enhance multiple aspects of my life; and my experience since then has confirmed this to be true. He is extremely insightful, relatable, non-judgmental, comforting, but also challenging when I need that. It's clear that Damodar is integral in practicing and living what he teaches.”

— Dan

Shri Nitai found a safe place to open up:

“For anyone who is considering this offer, I will say first hand that Coach Damodar is a sensitive, grounded, and judgement-free listener. He has a lot to share, and a desire to support people to step into a safe, authentic, and cathartic inner transformation. I felt like each time we met I leveled up in my ability to take on the insecurities that keep me from being my highest self. 10/10 I would recommend speaking with Coach Damodar.”

— Shri Nitai

Giri got unstuck from difficult emotions:

“Damodar carefully and lovingly facilitated a coaching space for gentle and thoughtful introspection and self-exploration. While working with him, I always felt heard, received, and understood. He helped by sharing other perspectives and viewpoints which made me feel less "stuck" and more whole in myself and my experience. The journaling activities were a paramount tool in navigating my inner landscapes and processing my thoughts and emotions. I'd love to work with Damodar again and would certainly recommend his service to others!”

— Robert “Giri” Strampello

Rodney rekindled the fire of self-control:

“I’ve had moments where I was afraid of losing myself. I couldn’t believe where I’d been and what I’d done. My inner child and personality, the voice of my conscience that I had known all my life was feeling dim, and I realized how scary the world can be.

My conversations with Damodar were an important part of stepping into my power, and putting these insights to practice. Having this space to talk openly helped me get in touch with a deeper place in myself, and solidify it in how I live my life. I was able to bypass some serious temptations, and now I’m experiencing a level of stability and fulfillment that I’ve never reached in my whole life. It’s still challenging to maintain, but everything is simpler now.”

— Rodney

Sam navigated a difficult life transition.

“Damodar’s coaching helped me identify ways I was holding myself back. His guidance made a challenging transition a lot less difficult. He went above and beyond to make himself available in a personal way.”

— Sam

Dharm felt supported and cared for:

“Damodar has an enthusiasm for the spiritual health of his clients along with transparency regarding his own journey. He has earned my trust and inspired me to care for myself in a way I have needed, but neglected for a long time.”

— Dharm

Mike began profound changes in his life:

“Damodar has been an excellent guide into my inner life of rejuvenation and self-improvement. He facilitated the understanding that I needed to begin profound changes in my life.”

— M.H. New York

Jon finally got to the root of the problem:

“My name is Jon. I’m here to talk about my friend and mentor, Damodar. I’ve known Damodar for several years. He’s kind and insightful, but he’s also helped me a lot to grow in a lot of way. He’s shined a light on issues that I’m struggling with, but don’t necessarily know that’s my particular problem. But he’s very good about pointing them out and he does it in a very respectful, kind way. So I highly recommend his service as a coach.” — Jon

Santosh found his calling:

“Before I started meeting weekly with Damodar, I was overwhelmed and lost. Practically every day I was coming up with new ideas of what I wanted to do with my life. But I wasn’t following through on anything. I was resentful, burnt out, and coping with some habits that made me heavy with guilt.

Damodar helped me find the places in myself that were in need of healing. I learned better ways of dealing with hard feelings. I clarified the direction I want to go with my career, and even avoided a divorce by resolving long-standing differences with my wife. I feel far more peaceful and grounded now, and I’m far more self-controlled both with my desires and anger.”

— Santosh

Nick opened up to love from other people:

“I'm a student of Coach Damodar's, and have been for about six months. I appreciate the empathy and intelligence that he brings to his program. He helped me identify my negative tendencies. He also helped me to inspire a positive vision for myself and the future. In finding the negative tendencies, I was able to accept them, and view myself with some empathy and forgiveness. Inspiring that positive vision, I was able to give my life a lot more meaning. And what's really cool is now I can accept positive feedback and not view myself with such contempt that I don't let anything nice in. I really think that Coach Damodar's Program, his teachings, his coaching, is incredibly valuable. And you'll feel much more valuable yourself if you take him up as a Coach. So please do.”

— Nick Perez

Time is Running Out

I’m committed to creating a space where you can speak your mind and heart without feeling like you’re being judged. Come be a part of this unique opportunity that so many people have already benefited from. A place where my client Chris transformed himself from a bundle of resentment and anxiety into a zen master. Where Tony found a way to handle conflict with a cool head and avoid those self-destructive spirals. A place where Darren threw shame out the window and faced his past with confidence.

These transformations aren’t just possible — they’re waiting for you. So, if you’re ready to turn your challenges into victories with a little fun and a lot of heart, I’m here to help. But time is running out to make these changes in your life and the “perfect time” is never coming.

Fill out the form below to join my free online community, where you can access resources and connect with others who are facing similar challenges. Let’s get started on your journey to becoming the hero of your own story!

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