Finding the Right Coach or Counselor

A Survival Guide

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Purpose: This is your survival guide to find a counselor who doesn’t just waste your time, but actually delivers the results you need. Whether you’ve tried before and feel discouraged, or this is your first time seeking support, this guide will walk you through what matters, what to avoid, and how to know if someone’s the right fit for you.

Why It’s So Important to Find the Right Support

Finding the right counselor can be as confusing as the problem that made you seek one in the first place.

I’ve experienced this myself. I’ve come home from intense seminars feeling emotionally overwhelmed with no one to help me process it. I’ve opened up with coaches who make me feel heard, but not guided. Many people have shared advice they got from a therapist which was surprisingly bad.

But I’ve also gotten fantastic support.

The truth is: not all support was created equal. That’s why it’s important to know what you’re getting yourself into before you invest in any kind of personal support. And with so many different types of help out there, you need to know that it’s the right fit for you.

No one is the perfect coach or counselor for everyone. But there is someone out there who gets what you’re going through, and knows how to guide you from where you are to where you want to be. The question is: how do you find them?

You need to know. Because the stakes are high.

If you succeed:

  • You get the help you need.

  • You make breakthroughs you didn’t think were possible.

  • And your life moves in a direction that finally feels aligned with who you really are.

If you fail:

  • You open up about all your secrets, only to be let down.

  • You start to believe that help doesn’t work—when really, you just didn’t have the right kind.

  • And worst of all, you remain stuck in cycles of shame, resentment, confusion, addiction, or emotional burnout.

Coaching vs. Therapy

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(#) Obvious things to avoid

  • Someone who doesn’t know what they’re doing

  • Scams

  • Lack of professionalism

  • Over-promising results

Bonus: Niche don’ts

(#) Obvious things you want

  • Professionalism and confidentiality

  • Experience and expertise

  • Affordability

  • Client-therapist compatibility “They get you”

Bonus: Niche dos

Am I the right fit for you?

  • I’m not the right coach if…

  • I am the right coach if…