9:55 - 10:30 Reading and Intros

Read Ego is the Enemy; Get Out of Your Own Head

1:1 Introductions: Name and location. What’s something you’re proud of? What’s something difficult that you’ve been through?

Partner A will answer the questions outloud while partner B practices being a generous listener. Half-way through time, they'll switch.

10:30 - 11:15 Black orb process

Think of something you would be afraid to share with the group.

“Were going to share our secrets with each other…” (Not really)

“But before we do, I want you to take a minute to notice how you feel in anticipation. What emotions are you feeling? Name them. What is happening in your body?”

You might be feeling tense. Your heart or gut may have dropped. You might be having cynical thoughts about me, Dharma Team, or this process we’re going through right now. You might be scared what people will think about you.

But we're not going to share our secrets. We're just going to talk about what it’s like to feel vulnerable.

Discuss. What was it like? What would you want from others before being vulnerable? How can you pay it forward in this group?

11:15 - 11:30 Break

11:30 - 12 Honesty leadership

Read Stillness is the Key; Find Confidence, Avoid Ego

Images of two archers

Vulnerability means putting yourself in a position where you could get hurt. Why would anyone want to do that? Because it makes it possible to experience the most beautiful things there are in this world: love and trust.

We all have fears that try to protect us from getting hurt. Especially the more trauma we have. The cost, however, is that we also miss out on love.

In a way, we can't avoid vulnerability because we're mortal. Either we miss out on depth in our relationships while playing it safe, or we risk getting hurt and learn from our experiences as we seek the real thing.

Radhanatha Swami quote. We can only be satisfied with love.

But someone has to put their guard down first. (Picture)

There's a surprising effect when you go first. It's the opposite of what you expect, and a form of leadership.

Questions and Comments

12 - 1

Calling Out the Negatives!

Ask people to select the statements they resonate with and put them in their own words, if they choose. They should write their own honest thoughts and feelings. (10 minutes, shoot from the hip the first thing that comes to mind.)

If I’m really honest in this group, then people will laugh at me.

If other people are really honest with me in this group, then I probably won't know the right thing to say.

If I'm really honest with the people in this group, then they will probably reject me.

The people in this group seem weird.

If I perform worse than most of the people in this group, then I'll just be a complete failure.

If I perform better than most of the people in this group, then I'll prove how I'm superior.
Some of the processes in Dharma Team seem like they’re going to be too much.

Group process:

Only please and thank you - Marshall Rosenberg

Explain the distinction between feelings and criticism or blame, as well as core needs versus strategies. Explain how to hear the feelings and core needs behind any message.

Have people direct message me at least one answer (in a full sentence) that they wrote down.

Show all the statements anonymously with the group. Break them down into feelings and core needs together.

Ground Rules

Don't break confidentiality by disclosing anyone's name to people outside Dharma Team, or by speaking about them in a way that makes it obvious who they are.
We ask for your 100% in all Dharma Team activities. At the same time, everything is 100% voluntary. If you're not ready or willing to participate in any particular process, then you can officially check-out.

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